Awhile ago, I was shown this video. I don’t often use the words “life changing” but this speech by David Foster Wallace is just that.
As we grow older and settle into the seeming monotony of day-to-day life, it is easy to be sucked into a vortex of boredom, cynicism and and impatience. Everything and everyone around us can feel like an inconvenience. I’ve found I need to regularly remind myself that I must “make a conscious decision about how to think.”
Please take ten minutes out of your day to watch this video and truly listen to the words.
While washing dishes yesterday morning, I was contemplating body acceptance, self-acceptance, self-love, etc. in a particularly hippie-ish fashion. I was thinking about how I used to assume I needed to be “perfect” and have all my shit together in order to be loveable. It’s easy to get stuck in this frame of thought, that you need to be some utopian, ideal human being before you can move forward or start a relationship.
Hold on a minute and consider this… What do you find most beautiful in others? Personally, I am attracted to weirdness. I like eccentricities and flaws. And I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this. If I am able to love someone BECAUSE of their imperfections, who am I to think someone else cannot love me for those same reasons? While there are certainly situations where it is helpful to spend some time alone, I encourage everyone to accept those little quirks and “insufficiencies” with open arms.
Embrace your “weird” because goddamn, it is beautiful!