Conversations With Myself: Reversing Negative Internal Dialogue

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Consider this for a moment, if you will…

You invite a friend to your home. Upon her arrival, you inform her that her outfit looks terrible and that she could really afford to lose a couple pounds. When she speaks, you let her know her thoughts are silly and invalid. When she says she is hungry, you tell her she doesn’t need to eat and hand her a piece of gum. OR, maybe just give her an entire package of cookies to go ahead and finish off because her weight is already “too far gone.”

You’d never do this, would you?

And yet, many of us treat ourselves in this manner on a daily basis. I confess, I am one of them. I struggle to feel the same love and tenderness for myself that I can easily muster for others.

The reality is, you (and me) are just as deserving. Just as worthy of love.

All of us have a running internal dialogue. Some feelings and thoughts may be so deeply ingrained that we no longer realize when we are silently judging and sabotaging ourselves. My challenge to myself today is to become more aware of that internal dialogue and to turn around the negative thoughts when they arise, to choose to treat myself as I would a friend.

What might this mean for you? In what aspect of your life could you benefit from slowing down and offering yourself that which you would freely give to someone you loved?

10 Life Lessons I Learned From My Mom

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  1. If you need a little mood boost, there’s nothing like taking a hot shower or bath and then slathering your neck and chest in a yummy-smelling lotion. That little act of self-care can do a lot. (I remember Mom letting me use her special Avon cream.)
  2. Presentation is everything. Cakes, tables, presents…taking the time to put them together with love and care says a great deal to the receiver of these things. (Still, I’ll never be able to wrap a gift like my mother.)
  3. If you can’t figure out what’s wrong, it’s probably HORMONES.
  4. When decorating your home, consider using an odd number of items.
  5. Giving truly is better than receiving. (My mother is one of the most generous people I have ever met. She derives so much pleasure from picking out gifts for others.)
  6. Sometimes all a person really needs is for someone to listen.
  7. The proper way to measure flour for baking is to spoon it into the cup, then even the top off with the edge of a knife.
  8. By using your pinkie, thumb and index finger you can create a little “gun” for shooting rubber bands.
  9. The deepest beauty is found in simplicity. (When I was little…wee little…Mom would strap me into the bike seat and we would ride around town looking for pretty things…a butterfly wing, a stone, a colorful leaf. I’ve never forgotten this.)
  10. The true meaning of unconditional love. (I love you, Momma.)